A Mother's Journey
Wednesday, July 29, 2020
Saturday, September 7, 2019
Will the Uniform Civil Code in India further alienate women from traditionally matriarchal & matrilocal cultures?
Fruits of a pandhu lily growing from a bulb planted by my Mother in the laterite soil of Thiruvananthapuram |
She was not a stranger in the city she lived in, a city chock-a-block with the best hospitals, well-connected with transport facilities and…full of Her relatives.
Yet when She had a stroke, no one came to attend to Her. It took Her one whole week to get to a hospital for treatment. Her son who had taken premature retirement on the grounds of caring for Her yet lived 500 kilometers away working at another job, did not come to Her aid in time. Her daughter-in-law who had Her sympathy for being the impoverished daughter of an alcoholic yet herself too lazy to work for a living and on whom She showered Her love, time and the finest jewels, only held Her in contempt for Her large belly (“no abs at all”) and was too indifferent to care.
I, Her daughter, living over 2000 kilometers away was giving care to my own disabled daughter and her father himself recovering from a recent stroke.
Her niece who was thought to be close to Her and whom She had rescued from a consanguineous marriage to a man she despised whose mother she lived in mortal fear of, ensured that I, Her daughter couldn’t pay Her my last respects. She was cremated before I arrived within a few hours of Her passing.
Remembering my Mother on Her 8th Death Anniversary.
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Thursday, June 21, 2018
Phyllanthus niruri - Keezhanelli
Phyllanthus niruri known as Keezhanelli in Malayalam springing in the rain in Thiruvananthapuram, Kerala. |
The south west monsoon has set in.
Keezhanelli standing in a pit of laterite soil brimming with rain water.
There was stillness while collecting the seeds of Keezhanelli after the monsoon had moved from Kerala to other parts of India in 2017.
The tender leaves of Keezhanelli are ground into a paste using coconut milk and given to those convalescing from jaundice and liver ailments.
This was part of the traditional knowledge handed from generation to generation in Travancore.
Keezhanelli is also known as 'stone breaker' in common parlance.
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Wednesday, December 16, 2015
Some reflections on the 1971 War by a daughter
1. Jawans of the parabrigade being dropped in Dacca by Indian Air Force planes from Central Air Command Allahabad
From a newspaper dated 18 December 1971-
2. Transport planes used as bombers...
A newspaper report dated 7 December 1971-
3. The dashing Lieutenant General (Unni ) Candeth from Kerala who was the General Officer Commander –in- Chief Western Command during the 1971 War.
A newspaper report dated December 1971-
4. The courageous Air Chief Marshal PC Lal, Padma Vibhushan, Padma Bhushan, DFC
and his wife Mrs Ela Lal - both so inspiring, caring, compassionate… made sincere efforts to those impacted by the 1971 war and their families.
A message by Air Chief Marshal PC Lal from Air Head Quarters, New Delhi dated 24 December, 1971 -
Saturday, August 1, 2015
On Guru Purnima
A sunny day, a gentle sea |
Before the worship making a payasam with rice, jaggery, coconut milk, aromatic spices...
Aromatic spices leaves. before roasting and powdering |
A Platycerium gives forth new fronds on Guru Purnima day.
A Platycerium in Thiruvananthapuram Kerala |
When a Gloriosa superba blossoms on Guru Purnima day... leading one to conversations towards the Kathopanishad.
*They perceive that indescribable highest bliss as ‘This is That’ How shall I know that? Does it shine by itself or does it shine by another light*.
Gloriosa superba blossoms in Thiruvananthapuram Kerala |
Gloriosa superba is known as 'Agnishika' in
Sanskrit, 'Kalihari' in Hindi and 'Menthoni' in Malayalam. All parts of the
Gloriosa superba are poisonous. The underground stems which are tubers are
extremely poisonous due to the presence of toxic alkaloids like colchicine.
Reference: *transalated from Sanskrit - Valli ii of the Kathopanishad
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